I get this question a lot (changing the noun as appropriate), and I even went live to talk a bit more about it a few weeks ago.
I figured the video is long, so I will keep this brief.
I’ve never had the talk, we’ve always just had dwarfism and achondroplasia as a part of the conversation in our home. The most important part of our discussions are not what anyone is, but what we have.
Adelaide has a beautiful smile, a smooth voice, beautiful gray eyes, long hair, a large vocabulary, a knack for finding patterns and creating rhymes, a love of reading.
She is not any one thing… if we were to say what we are, it’s ever-changing. I have been a little girl, a gymnast, a girl scout. But I am more than one thing or another, I am a sum of all the things I have.
I have a handsome, loving husband, two beautiful children, a passion for helping others, a desire for organization, a home I love, blue eyes, the running bug. I am not just a wife, a mother, a coach… I am Chelley.
In this same way, Addie is Addie.
(And yes, Millie is Millie).
There is no one way to introduce something that isn’t typical into your family. In fact, there is no one way to do anything in life- you can only do the best you can with the information you have at hand. And you’re doing a great job!
Give your child the tools they need to define themselves. The knowledge of what they have… in time, they will decide, at that moment, who (or what) they are.