I know you’re suffering. Maybe it is silent. Perhaps you’re so numb, you don’t even know you’re in pain anymore. You don’t even know you haven’t stopped. That you can’t.
But we know.
We know our pain, watching you.
Watching your eyes close at the dinner table.
Watching you trip over nothing.
Watching the only car parked in the lot, before the store employees get there.
Watching you wait on the corner.
Watching you scratch, sniff, shuffle, pick your nails, your face, your hands.
Watching you disappear.
We know.
We know because we live with your addiction too. Your husband. Your wife. Your mother and father. Your friends.
Your children.
We live with everything you do, except the escape.
We never get to escape.
And when you go, we don’t get to say goodbye.
Your husband. Your wife. Your mother and father. Your friends. Your children.
You don’t get to say goodbye.
And we live with that.
Get help. Here. Or here. Or here. Or here.
Don’t give up. We can’t let you give up.
I have a close family member who has struggled with addiction. Until they are clean, they have no idea what they are doing to their family.
My friend just passed, leaving a wife and 4 kids. He will never get it. And we all have to live with it. Addiction is terrifying.
Addiction affects every aspect of the person’s life. The entire family and friends of the addicted person suffer the secondary effects. This is a wonderful post and I hope it helps someone.
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I hope it saves a family. Thank you.
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What addiction can do to a family is devastating. Members of my family have been there, thankfully they were able to overcome it. I’m so sorry about the loss of your friend.
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I am so happy to hear stories of those who have made it out <3
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…6 Unique Christmas Stocking Stuffers for 2015
Words the hit the heart. I have family and friends that are currently or have overcame and walk the thin line every day. It affects everyone.
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It really does.
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My children don’t even know their paternal grandfather because of his addiction. Those things are what is important to him and even though we have tried to get him help numerous times nothing has worked. If your post helps even one person it was successful.
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I’m sorry to hear that. Addiction is incredibly hard.
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…6 Unique Christmas Stocking Stuffers for 2015
Addiction is such a hard thing. Especially for the family and friends of the one that is addicted.
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So, so true.
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…6 Unique Christmas Stocking Stuffers for 2015
You seriously made my eyes water. I understand this too well.
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Sending love to you <3
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The hard part is that the one with the addiction can’t see how it affects those around them. But it does. It affects everyone. And those closest to them the most.
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Yes. It’s the worst for those who live it without the escape.
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…6 Unique Christmas Stocking Stuffers for 2015
Unfortunately I have watched the downward spiral of addiction on more than once occasion and it kills me inside. You want to change the person and make them stop, but the truth is they have to want help in order to recover.
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But we are powerless to make them stop. I hate it.
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This is such a difficult issue to handle. As you said, the person who is the addict might not even realize what their friends and family deal with daily because of their choices.
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Too often, they do not.
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It is very unfortunate how serious addictions are and how devastating it can be to the people watching. I wish there was a way to save them all. Hopefully with this message you will be able to help some of them.
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Lord, I hope so. I cannot tell you how much I hope this saves just one person… and in turn, one family.
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…6 Unique Christmas Stocking Stuffers for 2015
This really hits my heart strings, tears at them. Thanks and sending hugs!
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<3
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…6 Unique Christmas Stocking Stuffers for 2015
This post has really touched me and I wish addictions weren’t so powerful.
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I wish it was something we could stop for other people. I wish that so so much.
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…6 Unique Christmas Stocking Stuffers for 2015
This is super powerful and so close to home. I have a brother whom I love dearly in jail for three more years because of heroin. It truly robbed his life and a piece of ours.
It just robbed me of a high school friend. I hope to God your brother gets the help he needs to overcome this- for himself and your family. My deepest prayers to you.
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…6 Unique Christmas Stocking Stuffers for 2015
You wrote this wonderfully. I wrote a post a little while back “Addiction I Hate You”. I have a niece that has been going through this. She doesn’t see how much her parent’s have and continue to struggle and ache. All the tears that have been cried by her cousins, aunts/uncles and on and on.
I never thought it would happen in our family, but it did and continues to do so.
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Can you link your post?
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…6 Unique Christmas Stocking Stuffers for 2015
We had one in the family. It took him many years and several rehabs before he finally realized that he wanted his life back.
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I wish more people would find that want <3
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