It’s week 17 in my #52WeeksA4A blog challenge, and I’m kind of excited for this one! I wrote about my sister for my first family member, back in week 6, but this prompt was a no-brainer for me. My mother-in-law is a total rock for the family… and after having Addie’s party and Sunday dinners aplenty, I know that the saying it takes a village refers to her.
When Dave and I got married almost 6 years ago, I wasn’t sure what my relationship with Sue, my mother-in-law, was supposed to be. It wasn’t like my friends- who either loved or hated their MILs. We didn’t get mani/pedis or do lunch together, but we liked to talk about Dave (nicely, of course), and she actually liked me (I hope). I love that my mother-in-law thanked me for being good to her son.
What mom does that?
I’ve held onto that for a long time. Living 300 miles from my own family is a lonely place for a girl, then a woman. And it’s really lonely when you’re a mom- at least for me. Since my final move from Philadelphia, I desperately missed calling my mom to tell her I was coming home for dinner- or asking her to come to my apartment. I yearned to get my nails done with her, or just stop by her office for a hug. I missed her.
So then I was a wife, and in a spot where I didn’t know my in-laws very well. But when I got pregnant, and subsequently miscarried, my mother-in-law all but moved in. Not really, but she was incredibly supportive, and when we told them we were pregnant again, I swear I saw her physically light up for us- which brings me to one of my favorite things about her; no matter how many grand kids come along (there’s 5 now), she’s just as excited each time- ready to spoil them rotten with everything and anything, but most importantly, love.
The way Addie lights up when we head over for Sunday dinners and talks about her (and her grandpa), show me exactly what I wanted reassurance of when I first married- Dave is the right man for me. I firmly believe that we marry a whole family, and though it’s taken these 6 years to build the friendship I wish had come so naturally with the whole family, we are blossoming. We are finding our place. And most of all, I am enjoying the gift of another mother.
So thank you, Sue. For blessing me with Dave. For being the most amazing grandparent to the girls. And for being the mother-in-law I didn’t know I needed.
What family member did you write about this week? Share in the comments and come link up your post below! Note that next week is a repeat (OOPS!)… I’ll be just sharing about the challenge that week- taking a little break due to mommy brain!!!!