I answered a few questions for a friend. She’s in college and doing a class survey, and I was sort of shocked by what I felt. I wanted to put these few samples of my answers out there to see what others thought! I am 30, married for almost 6 years and never did online dating, so I am curious what other people think! Please share your thoughts!
How do you believe dating practices have changed over time? How do your generation’s experiences differ from those of your parents or grandparents? In your opinion, are those changes negative or positive?
Me: They’ve become less personal. For my generation, and future, the idea is to look good on paper- I don’t believe this translates into healthy, long term relationships, however. Our grandparents and parents were pinned, went steady, wore varsity jackets- which I think is sweet. Women also went to college specifically to find a husband and left school to become his wife, losing a yet unformed identity- not something I would choose for myself. The rise of internet dating among younger people has left people unable to meet and strike up conversation- we’re all buried in our devices looking for who we match. Truthfully, the change is a combination, but more negative. The more we can communicate all the time, the less we seem to actually talk and connect.
Do you agree with the saying that “chivalry is dead?” Why or why not?
Me: Absolutely not. I think with more single parents, generations are seeing less healthy couple interaction- the love and adoration 2 people who have child(ren) come to have for each other, but we also see so much more gender slamming, especially of males, wrongly declared in the name of feminism.
Do you believe that advances in technology have positively or negatively affected dating and relationships? How so?
Me: I think it’s great to meet new people we otherwise would not meet, but are we stunting our ability to connect in person because we rely so heavily on algorithms to tell us our compatibility? The more we can connect, the further we seem to drift from the ability to communicate, or the desire to understand and keep personal touch with people over a long-term period.
Some say that today’s adolescents and young adults are part of a “Hookup Culture.” Do you agree?
Me: Yes. I think females tend to try so hard and go to such great lengths to make a male like her, that she misses the part where she’s supposed to like herself.
Do you believe that hookups are replacing committed relationships in today’s generation? Why or why not?
Me: Yes, in the initial relationship. There was a time that relationships began as two people… now they seem to be two people getting to know multiple people, both emotionally and physically, and then deciding if they want to be with just one of those people, or carry on as is, or maybe drop a person or two and pick another up.