Victim Blame.
Stop it. Stop it now.
Stop blaming the victim. Victim blame is an old fad that became the norm. Somehow we, as a culture, stopped helping the people being hurt by ignoring the issue, removing the hurt party, or making excuses for the perpetrator of (for all intents and purposes) crimes.
Stop victim blame.
Stop it.
If a child is being bullied in school. The answer is not to grow thicker skin. The answer is not a different school. The answer is not homeschooling. The answer is not removing the child. It’s to stop the bullying. Stop the bully.
Stop it.
If a woman is raped. The answer is not to wear something different. The answer is not to have less drinks. The answer is not to figure out if she said no, or if she really meant no. It’s to stop when it’s not consensual. Stop the rape.
Stop it.
If a photo is stolen from Facebook/blog/etc. by [insert bad person here]. The answer is not to hide from the internet. The answer is not to never share a photo. The answer is not to fear social media. It’s to have harsher crime units for internet crimes. Stop the bad people.
Stop it.
If a person’s photo is taken and shared on social media sites. The answer is not to dress differently. The answer is not to look different. The answer is not to change that person. It’s to stop being an asshole. No really.
Just stop it.
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You are absolutely right and thank you for stepping up and saying what a lot of other people are afraid to say.
Thank you, Robin!
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
Very well said. Sometimes I wonder what people are thinking, it is a sad world.
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Sometimes it really is a sad world we live in.
It can be. I try to find light, though!
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
Amen! I don’t understand what goes through people’s heads sometimes. Why don’t they just THINK?
Thinking is hard for some… I know it seems like justifying things is the best way to stop them because we want to see only the good… but really, it’s damaging.
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
This is such a great reminder!
Thanks, Elaina.
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
Go get ’em! I think there needs to be more of this and less of telling kids AND adults not to be so sensitive!
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YES! Why should we quell our spirits because others hurt us?!
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
Ugh, I hate hearing things like, well, did you see what she was wearing… really? That makes it okay? Ugh, so annoying.
I cannot even talk about that. As though a short skirt means you can climb on in? HELL NO.
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
Well said! I can not stand the cop-outs these days! Take responsibility for your own actions not blaming everyone else.
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Yes! Exactly.
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
Wonderful post! It really is sad how fast people are to try to blame or justify by the actions of the victim.
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Justify the wrong and blame the victim… insane!
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
Victim blaming is weirdly common on the internet. You can see it in a multitude of issues. It’s illogical and ridiculous.
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So true! The internet is out of its mind sometimes!
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
This is so well said. It really is sad how much blame society tries to put on a victim and to justify a crime
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Sad indeed.
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
This is a nice post . Bullying is a bad , I might say worst thing and we all should avoid doing this .
You are doing a great job by spreading this word .
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Bullying is a terrible act, for sure.
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
Very courageous of you and well said.
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Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
Ah, I just read her post. I’m with her… taking pictures without consent is objectifying. I’m surprised to learn it happens often…and so I’m with you on that one too in wishing people who do such things (and the others you mentioned too) would just stop it.
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Isn’t it crazy how much this stuff happens?! I was asked if someone could take a picture of Addie with her child because it was funny. Ummm… funny? No thanks. My child’s height isn’t any more funny than anyone else’s!
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
I’m with you on this one Chelly. I’m so over people who try to make excuses for perpetrators. I’m so over parents who sit back and watch their children’s lives detroyed by bullies. If don’t stand up and advocate for our kids and others, we are performing a disservice.
A disservice- yes! That’s a great way to put it!
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
that sucks is still too ignorant people around but any even more ‘who loves and fight for good
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I hope the ignorance stops.
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
We all need to stop justifying the actions of others and making excuses! Everyone will be stronger for it!
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So true!
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
It’s crazy. I have an internet stalker. They need to just stop!
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Oh no, Crystal! That sounds scary!
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
I have to respectfully disagree to a degree. I really believe we’re doing our kids a disservice to imply that they can’t do anything to protect themselves from the idiots out there. No, they can’t control the actions of others, but they can put themselves in less vulnerable positions. Yes, bullies, attackers, stalkers, etc. should be stopped and punished thoroughly, but my children should not be so naive as to think that there will never be bullies, etc. that can’t be stopped. I believe in preparing my child for the world, and if it’s to teach my daughter that walking in a dark alley at 1am wearing a short skirt is a bad idea, then so be it :-).
I agree with you, actually! I think that our kids and adults can do a lot to protect themselves, but to remove a child from a bully situation and not the bully is, to me, ridiculous- that punishes the child to take them out of their school or class because someone else can’t get their stuff together. As for alleyways… there are lots of strange things that happen there- I don’t want my kids going down one! BUT, if my daughter is wearing a dress, that is not an invitation to touch her. Plain and simple. Teach caution- for sure, but not blame.
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
I totally agree with you that we should not blame the victims. However, I also agree with the commenter above that we’ve got to teach our children which things are worth getting upset over. I’m not talking rape, ect here but I do think that we’re too quick to throw around the term bullying. My son has come home several time saying he’s being bullied when in reality it’s just the picking that kids do. In the real world there is going to be adversity. I think we need to teach out kids where the line is that shouldn’t be crossed and then show them how to deal with small issues without immediately becoming the victim.
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I can totally see that! Sensitivity needs to be exercised, but also the free spirit and learning of boundaries- if you tell a child no and expel them without warning, they’ve learned nothing really. Teaching limits- I agree.
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
thank you for voicing out…I applaud you!
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Thank you!
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
So true. And very well said. I see this now almost on a daily basis. It’s quite sad.
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It really is so sad!
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
Victim blaming makes me sick and it’s sad that some people think it ok. Theres no excuse for it.
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Very right, Trisha!
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
It is so sad that people are so quick to blame the victim. I agree with you 100%
Thank you.
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
I agree to a point but there are occasions where someone does something that does cause part of a resultant action; for example, the latest case of police brutality in Virginia. The young man was trying to get into a bar even though he was underage. If he had not been trying to get into that bar while underage (I know, we have all done it) he would not have put himself in a place to be arrested.
Teach children to be smart, respectful of others and respectful of the rules. Prejudice and the attitudes that result in bullying are taught not part of a child’s natural make up.
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I actually had not seen that story, but he was breaking the law, so I can see your point. Police brutality is a subject that I don’t delve into due to controversy, but teaching children to obey laws and rules from childhood is so important- they need to know that breaking the law isn’t just doing something that isn’t suggested, it’s something that can get you or someone else very hurt.
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
Well said! I agree, we shouldn’t blame the victims.
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Exactly!
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
I agree 100%. You have a beautiful family by the way 🙂
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Thank you, Danielle!
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
Great post!!! Yes, agree! The answer is to just STOP!!!!
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Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
This is SO true, as a teacher…..I love this reminder!
Thank you!
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
You are completely right! This is never said in society enough!
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It really isn’t!
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A
You are completely right. People need to be considerate, respectful, and caring of others. We should all stand up to bullies.
So true!
Chelley @ A is for Adelaide recently posted…100 Things , #52WeeksA4A